Love, Mercy, and the Shattering of Ones Heart

I was talking to a much younger friend of mine on facebook tonight. We were chatting when she said (quote)

""nothing lasts forever" it's why I don't date.. I don't want to turn to despise the person I once loved the most."

 then after a while I logged onto okcupid.. the dating website and in their random selections of questions you can choose to answer I found
"If given the choice of a lifelong relationship with someone you would love but never have a lustful "spark" for or a few years of intense passion with someone you would love intensely, which would you choose?"First let's talk on the former quote. I think about the depth it carries.. and the 2 things it means... it means never getting hurt.. it means never being let down by the person you love, because you never give them a chance.. It also means never finding true love.. it also means never finding 'the one'.. if you never give anybody the chance to be.. Or it could protect her until the real 'one' comes into her life.. Shakespeare once said that it's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. Shakespeare also said that somebody who has already fallen in love is more likely to fall in love again than somebody who never has.

Let's look at the question from the dating website.. the author of the question seems to be implying that you either have to settle for a mediocre 'love' that is not 'in love' and not full of intense desire.. OR be in a short term relationship filled with desire but no longevity.. Why can't you hope for the best of every world and hold out until you get it.. Why can't you end up with somebody you're crazy about?

I'll explore these arguments more in later posts! 

"Friendship - Reason, Season, or Lifetime" Letter from an ex friend

While I was sorting through a pile of old data disks from the early to mid '10s, I found this email from an old friend. It looks like she didn't write it but pasted it to me, and since I often ponder the meaning of life and relationships, I felt the need to share it.
She sent this to me in January 2007. Within a year our friendship had disbanded. It was sad because we were very close. Throughout our friendship she had often told me that she didn't like who she was while she was with her ex boyfriend... She said that she isolated herself from people when she was with him. She said for this reason she and he would never get back together. She ended up back with this boyfriend, and she began sabotaging all of her close friendships soon after, including her friendsihp with me. She is missed... I've lost many friends along the way. Close friends, best friends, friendly aquaintances... and boyfriends who have claimed that i was their best friend...
So perhaps this will be of help to you. :)
It's not meant to be an answer.. but food for thought.

Reason, Season, Lifetime... Author Unknown

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die, or fade into anonymity. Sometimes circumstances dictate that they go in another direction leaving you to wonder; sometimes they walk away, uncaring and unwilling. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand, hoping that enmity hasn’t reared its ugly head. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. Reasons can go against you…but when it does, all you can do is assess it for what it’s worth, monitor subsequent correspondences, make your decision and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has
come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season. Seasonal tidings with this situation usually deal with those that are going through changes, can’t cope with certain situations that cause them to step outside of comfort zones, or are unwilling to take chances. Other seasonal fold readily recognizes their own kind and will not hesitate to cut you loose.

LIFETIME relationships are harder to recognize for the moment, but with time can be the best choice you can make. But how many people do you know are willing to persevere for the long haul? Life timers teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. They accept you for what you are, do not prematurely judge you, do not have any inhibitions about taking chances for the betterment of the relationship, and surely feel that compatibility is something that is assessed as you go, not at the spur of the moment. There’s GOT to be something that you can learn from this type of person. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. Silence doesn’t suppose to be as ominous to cut deep like the sharpest knife. To be cut loose dangling trying to fathom how it went south, is to know that directional change does not have to be defined by ill winds and misplaced logic…I thank all the people I’ve met in my lifetime who have lent me their ears, allowed me to belong, love and be loved. I’m all the better because somewhere, somehow, and someone have given me hope that friendship is not fleeting…. that it can be a true embodiment of comraderie for as long as we deem it necessary! And for those that I’ve called a friend at some point in my life, you will always be one …but know that you will not be forgotten.

Trinny & Susannah - I got hugged!

I had the pleasure of meeting Trinny & Susannah at one of their local mall visits. Susannah posed happily for a photograph. I have all of their main books and really enjoy the laugh. I prefer their books over their show as I find some of the people that appear on the show to be nothing short of ridiculous. Do people in the UK really dress that badly?

Having said that I've seen my fair share of people in North America as well as Australia (America AND Canada) who don't know how to dress so perhaps Trinny and Susannah are just as big a blessing to the entire globe!

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My ideal husband

The Dream Man

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My perfect guy is minimum 6' tall

wider and taller and doesn't mind walking around the mall

he writes poetry and likes to sing

he rhymes at random and can talk about anything

he loves quality time and he has crystal eyes

and he'll run accross town if my batteries die

he'll hug my cats and likes to rap

he'll cheer me up when I have pms crap

he has wisdom and has grace

and never lack humility nor lie to save face

he bares his soul and opens his heart

if conversation lacks, he'll make it start

he takes care of his looks and health

and cares to learn the principles of wealth

to me he'll be sexy and ever so cute

love at first site and forever to boot

he'll be american with a baseball cap

and he'll love baseball and basketball at that

he'll want to go for hikes and nature walks

but he'll also love cocoa and sitting to talk

he'll be a communicator a real chatter box

somebody who appreciates my collection of socks

he'll appreciate me and the presents i buy

and strive every day to be one heck of a guy

he'll be in love with me like cupid has zapped

a christian head of a household and a focus for that

a healthy relate with his family and friends

he'll open doors and he'll be polite

and strive every day to do what is right

I'll be the barbie and he'll be my ken

he'll put God first, me second self last

be into PDA and be into it fast

i know what i want and if it comes by you'll know

coz like my dream boy, my affections ill show