She sent this to me in January 2007. Within a year our friendship had disbanded. It was sad because we were very close. Throughout our friendship she had often told me that she didn't like who she was while she was with her ex boyfriend... She said that she isolated herself from people when she was with him. She said for this reason she and he would never get back together. She ended up back with this boyfriend, and she began sabotaging all of her close friendships soon after, including her friendsihp with me. She is missed... I've lost many friends along the way. Close friends, best friends, friendly aquaintances... and boyfriends who have claimed that i was their best friend...
So perhaps this will be of help to you. :)
It's not meant to be an answer.. but food for thought.
Reason, Season, Lifetime... Author Unknown
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die, or fade into anonymity. Sometimes circumstances dictate that they go in another direction leaving you to wonder; sometimes they walk away, uncaring and unwilling. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand, hoping that enmity hasn’t reared its ugly head. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. Reasons can go against you…but when it does, all you can do is assess it for what it’s worth, monitor subsequent correspondences, make your decision and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has
come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season. Seasonal tidings with this situation usually deal with those that are going through changes, can’t cope with certain situations that cause them to step outside of comfort zones, or are unwilling to take chances. Other seasonal fold readily recognizes their own kind and will not hesitate to cut you loose.
LIFETIME relationships are harder to recognize for the moment, but with time can be the best choice you can make. But how many people do you know are willing to persevere for the long haul? Life timers teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. They accept you for what you are, do not prematurely judge you, do not have any inhibitions about taking chances for the betterment of the relationship, and surely feel that compatibility is something that is assessed as you go, not at the spur of the moment. There’s GOT to be something that you can learn from this type of person. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. Silence doesn’t suppose to be as ominous to cut deep like the sharpest knife. To be cut loose dangling trying to fathom how it went south, is to know that directional change does not have to be defined by ill winds and misplaced logic…I thank all the people I’ve met in my lifetime who have lent me their ears, allowed me to belong, love and be loved. I’m all the better because somewhere, somehow, and someone have given me hope that friendship is not fleeting…. that it can be a true embodiment of comraderie for as long as we deem it necessary! And for those that I’ve called a friend at some point in my life, you will always be one …but know that you will not be forgotten.
Sometimes they die, or fade into anonymity. Sometimes circumstances dictate that they go in another direction leaving you to wonder; sometimes they walk away, uncaring and unwilling. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand, hoping that enmity hasn’t reared its ugly head. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. Reasons can go against you…but when it does, all you can do is assess it for what it’s worth, monitor subsequent correspondences, make your decision and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has
come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season. Seasonal tidings with this situation usually deal with those that are going through changes, can’t cope with certain situations that cause them to step outside of comfort zones, or are unwilling to take chances. Other seasonal fold readily recognizes their own kind and will not hesitate to cut you loose.
LIFETIME relationships are harder to recognize for the moment, but with time can be the best choice you can make. But how many people do you know are willing to persevere for the long haul? Life timers teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. They accept you for what you are, do not prematurely judge you, do not have any inhibitions about taking chances for the betterment of the relationship, and surely feel that compatibility is something that is assessed as you go, not at the spur of the moment. There’s GOT to be something that you can learn from this type of person. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. Silence doesn’t suppose to be as ominous to cut deep like the sharpest knife. To be cut loose dangling trying to fathom how it went south, is to know that directional change does not have to be defined by ill winds and misplaced logic…I thank all the people I’ve met in my lifetime who have lent me their ears, allowed me to belong, love and be loved. I’m all the better because somewhere, somehow, and someone have given me hope that friendship is not fleeting…. that it can be a true embodiment of comraderie for as long as we deem it necessary! And for those that I’ve called a friend at some point in my life, you will always be one …but know that you will not be forgotten.
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